Narcissist In Love

The Narcissist in Love

A person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder might believe they have fallen in love, but they aren't capable of genuine affection. Instead, they are infatuated with a fantasy, a flawless hero or deity they project onto their partner.

Narcissists can be compelling actors, even portraying themselves as being deeply in love. They seek someone who might save them from their insecurities and mirror back the 'ideal self' they wish to see. Yet when they realize their partner is only human, they often become vindictive.

The ensuing relationship becomes toxic, with the narcissist trying to mold their partner to fit the initial fantasy. As a result, the victim often feels perpetually wronged, as the narcissist magnifies even minor faults while disregarding any positives.

The unpredictability is exhausting. Victims might wake up wondering, “What will I do wrong today?” Any perceived shortcomings are punished disproportionately, leading to character assassination and long bouts of silent treatment.

In the narcissist's skewed perspective, they are always the saint, while the victim is demonized. To anyone involved with a narcissist, the advice is clear: leave the relationship and don't look back.

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